Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Men and Forgiveness

A very interesting post over at "A Guy in the Pew" blog on men and forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of those things that has become such a key part of my own understanding of my own Faith after taking several classes and writing an M.Div thesis with Michael Battle in seminary and also needing to battle my own inner feelings of wanting vengeance. As we approach Holy Week, and I begin to think more intensely about Jesus on the cross when he forgave not only "those who know not what they do," but also the criminal beside him, I get to thinking about the incredibly high bar that Jesus set for us.

I appreciated Chuck's post at "A Guy in the Pew" and he got me thinking about forgiveness in a new way, check out an excerpt below, and the entire post HERE.


A Guy in the Pew: Men and Forgiveness: "Men and Forgiveness

Every so often in my practice as a lawyer, I meet people (sometimes they are clients, and sometimes they are the opposing party) who simply can't let go of a perceived wrongdoing. In my experience, this is never healthy--I have seen lives ruined with an obsession about vengeance. Forgiveness is never easy, but I have no doubt that the willingness to forgive is essential to a healthy life.

I was therefore intrigued by a recent scientific study that showed that men are less willing to forgive than women:

Forgiveness can be a powerful means to healing, but it does not come naturally for both sexes. Men have a harder time forgiving than women do, according to Case Western Reserve University psychologist Julie Juola Exline. But that can change if men develop empathy toward an offender by seeing they may also be capable of similar actions. Then the gender gap closes, and men become less vengeful."

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